When your boss says she needs you around in the office longer than you actually should be there, and your mother-in-law says you should come by to visit more often because she misses you, you know they are telling the truth – these people do really need you.
Now, how many of those people who ‘need’ your company, and you can perfectly do without, actually leave you happy and invigorated after the interaction?
Or maybe rather weirdly fatigued and headached?..
Energy vampires of all kinds are all out of a closet now. We finally acknowledged they exist and they do seriously get on our emotional harmony.
These are no monsters, in fact, they are simply lower-energy younger souls that lack certain awareness and traits that more balanced personalities got. And so they instinctively choose and cling to those people as donors of the energies they themselves are deficient in.
These sad people are unaware of the fact that they are actually feeding on the vibrations of others, and they have no clue of how greatly they may be intoxicating somebody’s existence.
They just instinctively ‘know’ that there is something delicious for them you’ve got and this something will make them feel better. And so they do truly believe that they love you, miss you and need you.
No matter how well you try to build your relationships with people around and how much positivity you outward, you will rarely avoid energy trolls around yourself. And the more positive you actually are, the more ‘needy ones’ will be cling to you.
Psyche tyrants range from insufficient ones that just occasionally get on our nerves and can be easily got rid of, to major life-drainers that have to be in our faces every day, and we can’t really avoid them because we are tied up with them in some close relativity or social cooperation.
Energy vampires differ greatly in their types as well as in their involvement with us. And in fact, there is no ultimate way of shielding from them all.
So, unless you choose to permanently seclude yourself from the society, you should otherwise learn to make a harmonious living among all kinds of people, including those who disturb your serenity.
But in fact, you will keep suffering from energy vampires only until you realize that you can actually benefit from them and use them efficiently on your way of personal growth and energetic intelligence.
And remember, energy vampire is not the main deal, it is just a tool that is presented to you so that you could learn many important things through your interactions.
Remember, the more hopes the Nature puts on you, the more challenges and tyrants it is likely to cast on your way.
And the more you resent and avoid annoying people and situations, the more often you will be brought back with them.
All the tyrants are given to us in order to challenge our
- feeling of self-importance (Castaneda term), which is our inborn and life-long cultivated Ego that gives us the illusion of being better or more meaningful than others).
And teach us
- mastery of acceptance and
- emotional intelligence.
With just a little effort you can master your ways of dealing with tyrants, upgrade on a level of self-development, and even have some fun along the way.
A vampire in your life is the best training aid for practicing on attainment of your energetic wholeness.
Vampiric people feel extremely annoying, but as long as they keep irritating you and you keep resenting them, they will keep sticking around, because, unconsciously, they want your
- resentment
- guilt
- fear
- anger
- and compassion
Well, any strong emotional response from you would do for them.
Because with any neurotic reaction you are sending them a chunk of your energy – this is what they are waiting from you.
Stay resentful and hate the fact of their existence, and be sure they won’t leave you alone. And the more energy they need from you, the more they will increase getting on your nerves.
Their energy hunger senses that you shrink away from them on the inside and that makes you even tastier and more desired. They want exactly the energy that you won’t give eagerly. These people feed on heavy vibrations of irritation, arguments and fights.
So don’t resent your tyrants – have fun with them instead!
Your tyrants work within a scenario.
Once you recognize it – because, in fact, it’s always the same – you will be able to play that scenario with artistry – play it your way.
And just as you trick vampires into your play, letting them think it’s still theirs – here is where the fun begins.
Vampires always use their irritants as the tools for fishing your energy out. If you bite on those irritants, you are caught.
Recognize their tools.
They always seek your company, but they will always (unconsciously)
- use the perfume or accessories you hate
(even the general look of your vampire may look irritating to you)
- give you advises that you don’t need
- ask you questions that is none of their business
- give the same comments that drive you nuts time and again
- complain, complain, complain (always)
- criticize (you and others, with details you don’t really want to know)
- pull a drama
- give you bad news
(and tell you about every horrific event on the planet and in the local neighborhood)
- talk slowly or eat loudly
- bite their nails
- smoke in your face
- move with you in a smothering physical proximity
- touch your stuff
(to mess it or organize it their way)
- and do other innumerous things that you in particular hate.
They want two things – your company and your emotional response.
Even resenting them on a distance sends them the energy of your reactions every time you think how much you hate them.
As a sensitive person myself I used to try and avoid interacting with the vampires for as much as it was possible, and they’d only continue tormenting me on a distance with a wilder determination.
Now I go visit my vampires often and am really happy to fob myself off on them!!
Talk about the scenario.
Before I would feel sad and sick in their company, forcing out a smile just to be polite.
Now I come visit them eagerly and smile and laugh loudly, and talk heartily with my vampires, grabbing their hands, hugging them and messing their hairdos.
But guess what. Hardly had I gone happy to share my vampires’ company, offer them a hug and a compassionate ear, as they lost interest in me and withdrew from my company. Hmm…
Years of dealing with energy vampires made me realize that unconditional love, acceptance and open friendliness smother them and bewilder their vampiric zest.
When you start stalking them with your attention and become psycho happy to share their company, such willingness of yours may scare them away, because it breaks their behavioral scenario expected of you.
When you shower them with love, compassion and tight hugs, paradoxically, they might even develop headaches from you or get bored, because this is not the type of energy they need from you – they want your resentment and evasion, that’s what boosts their adrenalin.
They don’t need your laughter and happy wisdoms that diminish their never ending end-of-the-world problems. They want to bring you down and get your involvement with their dramas that really have no end or need any solutions.
So come and jump on your vampires’ heads with a happy look, loud laughter, shower them with Love, and give them every irrelevant ‘practical’ adviсes on everything, because when vampires complain, they don’t really need a solution to their problems, they just want to gripe you.
It is especially effective to be happy, smiling and playful in response to your vampire’s chronic sour face and constant nagging and sticking.
But be careful, again, because the mighty flood of positive energy may cause your vampire feeling bad. Because they are not able to digest a huge flood of fun energy that you throw out on them at once, they are rather used to drag those energies out in dosage with their own pinchers.
But please, remember, you should never plan to revenge on your vampires or intentionally make them feel bad. The purpose of these techniques is a pure self-defense and just a mean of letting them know not to infringe on your energy balance.
Another good way of warding some of them off is to become a ‘Shrek’s donkey’ that just talks talks talks without any deep meaning and without stop.
I tried it hundreds of times on those vampires who love to stick suffocatively close – it’s those people who just can’t keep their hand off your shoulder during interaction.
And so I’d start showering them with tones of silly information, making sure I sound loud and make an intense eye contact. It’s also a good idea to give your vampire an eager lecture on something that he or she has no idea about.
In a few minutes of such unexpected bombarding I’d always notice how my poor vampire’s look deem and lose an eye contact. Then they quickly deflate and switch to somebody else.
They don’t want your positivity, they need to get you and your nervous.
A vampire tries to make you uncomfortable, but if you ignore the irritants and start making your vampire uncomfortable instead (simply with the behavior she or he does not expect), you will notice how your daily chimaeras will start shrinking away.
Until one day you think of a person who used to drain your existence and find yourself having no negative emotions for her or him whatsoever left.
Very informative and thorough post about psychic vampires and plain annoying people. The old remedies that you mentioned really work! Kill them with kindness, smother them with love, harass them with happiness! It’s like shining your brilliant light energy upon them and them can not exist! Great advice, I hope all energy vampires read your post and turn back into loving human beings once more. Vamps are our brothers and sisters! Be well.
Posted by 1EarthUnited | 26/12/2012, 9:55 pmThis is what I always say too! when people complain about their vampires and ask how it’s best to hurt them back…
And the truth is, you may not wish to hurt and make anybody feel bad in return, even if they themselves hurt you.
Effective dealing with any annoying people or situations in your life is only possible through acceptance, love and positivity. Those three factors have a power to heal the situation from within the core!
Posted by sofiasiberia | 26/12/2012, 10:08 pmYES!! You speak the truth sister. It’s all about intention, if you truly want someone to become a better person, show your compassion and try to sincerely help. Yes, in the beginning, “fake it till you make it” if the person’s a real A-hole. If you see the vampire has potential and wants to change, or is trying… then I would go out of my way and truly try to help. But nobody can play me for a fool, because I’m very aware now. ;)
The ultimate goal is to raise the vibrational level of consciousness to critical mass so everyone has greater awareness, then life overall will become much better. Thank you for doing your part Sophia!
Posted by 1EarthUnited | 26/12/2012, 10:24 pmAmeeeen dear!!
You know I always felt sorry for my vampires, because I knew these people are not doing the energy harm intentionally, they simply lack awareness and their own energy resources are low.
With this attitude I actually managed to help some of them to become much easier-going people, discover their own hobbies and sources of ‘healthy’ energy refill :)
and others just lost interest in me and switched to different donors..
Well, as you said, we’ll be doing our best and hoping for a raise in vibrational level and the level of awareness <3
Posted by sofiasiberia | 26/12/2012, 10:31 pmSigh. I have met so many people like this. Some of them are actually nice people , but let’s just say – we don’t get along. I feel it is best to stay far away, if you can. They are good at sucking people into their little webs though… Great post.
Posted by Teeny Bikini | 31/12/2012, 1:30 amYeah these are rather the tips on how to try and deal with them if you absolutely can’t avoid them :)
But yes, with people who chose the path of an energy vampire it’s always better to part ways as soon as you identify them :)
Thanks so much for stopping by! I love to see You on my blog! :) Cheers!
Posted by sofiasiberia | 31/12/2012, 1:54 amThanks so much. Your tips were very insightful. I will make a mental note of them. See? You are making me smarter ;) Love it.
Posted by Teeny Bikini | 31/12/2012, 2:08 amHahahaha :))) You are simply fun!)) hugs to you :D
Posted by sofiasiberia | 31/12/2012, 12:36 pm[ Smiles ] Your blog is most informative!
Posted by Renard Moreau | 01/01/2013, 1:35 amOh thank you! :) I’m happy you liked it!
Posted by sofiasiberia | 01/01/2013, 10:59 amGreat post Sofia, energy vampires suck (literally!). If you have the chance to simply remove them from your life, or remove yourself from their life it’s a good idea. But if interaction is unavoidable then your tips are a great idea!
For a long time I had issues with energy sapping people who would bring me down, but these days I attract people who give me energy a lot more. We give each other energy and don’t get drawn down roads of drama and depression, it’s quite cool :)
Like you said, the most important thing is identifying them, being honest with yourself about the fact that they exist and they do not have your best interests in mind. Then you can realise that you don’t need to put up with this kind of behavior. Once you no longer emit a vibe that puts up with toxic people or energy vampires they are no longer as attracted to you :)
Really cool post :)
Rohan.
Posted by rohan7things | 04/01/2013, 10:40 amHey Rohan :) So happy you visited! Thanks for the wonderful comment! That is so true, exactly, at some point you simply stop producing vibes that attract them, and they let go. Before i suffered from a crowd of energy vampires, now i just can’t believe the amount of happy positive ppl around me!:)
One or two occasional negative persons still pass by, but somehow i’m not even bothered by them anymore, have smiles for everybody! :))
Posted by sofiasiberia | 04/01/2013, 10:56 amI appreciate you for sharing this information here. it was a brilliant post. thanks!
Posted by Margaret Sullivan | 05/01/2013, 9:01 amYou are always welcome, Margaret! Happy to see you pass by! :)
Posted by sofiasiberia | 05/01/2013, 12:46 pmHahaha thank you so much. :-) I am glad I read this, I was having a headache a while ago but I’m feeling so much better now :-) u made my day!
Posted by monadsamadhi | 15/01/2013, 2:19 amYou are so welcome, dear. I’m happy it helped you! And thank you dearly for all the reblogging, i’m honored! Plz stay well and safe!
Posted by sofiasiberia | 15/01/2013, 2:45 amReblogged this on monadsamadhi.
Posted by monadsamadhi | 15/01/2013, 2:21 amThank u! Thank God the police didn’t believe in their side, they just came out of nowhere! Phew! Lol I’m just glad I can laugh about it now. I got scared for a minute though
Posted by monadsamadhi | 15/01/2013, 5:48 amDear, people that clearly ‘stand out’ in their nature, spiritual way of living, background or thinking, function on higher energy vibrations that emanate into the outside and get sensed by other people.
You give a feeling of ‘something unusual’, and people react in a different way, without being clearly aware of why they experience certain emotions in response to you.
Some would react with love and interest and some with unexplained occasional hostility.
The high pitch of your energy vibrations create a certain biofield around you and your family, and that causes lower energy vibrational people sense there is ‘someone different’ around. That triggers various extreme emotional responses.
Don’t worry, you’ll be safe! Just trust your nature and ask your astral forces for protection. They do protect you anyway!
Posted by sofiasiberia | 15/01/2013, 9:39 amThank u for bringing that up. I never really thought of it that way until u said it. They show a lot of symptoms of being vampiric because after it all happened my husband has been feeling very sick and depressed so I am trying to send good thoughts.
Posted by monadsamadhi | 15/01/2013, 4:33 pmThis just backs up a lot of things which I have always been exposed to; I was the subject of some energy draining by a unstable friend who needed almost a crutch to lean on and as I am of the sensitive type I absorbed a lot of the energy they gave out leaving me unstable myself. I was advised to read : Dion Fortune’s Psychic Self Defense which says a lot of the things you say here and helps you to build up mechanisms to prevent energy theft as I call it. I really like the way your blog educates people in these things but also tells them that their innate sensitivity is a positive thing; because a lot of people are told that their natural deeper understanding is – over thinking or weird. :)
Posted by zoevega | 15/01/2013, 5:16 pmTO ZOEVEGA:
My dear friend! So happy to see you passed by!
Last week i was nominating many people for awards and i went to your blog to send you your award, but when i searched your blog, it gave me a zero result :(
I was so sad, i thought that your blog got suspended like many others due to the recent technical problems here..
And i’m really happy to see you back! :)
I really appreciate your comments and glad you found these tips helpful!
I know you are of a sensitive empathetic kind from the way you are writing your posts!
Will be eagerly visiting back!
Love and peace to you!
Posted by sofiasiberia | 15/01/2013, 6:33 pmThat’s very kind of you and I am also flattered that you thought my blog interesting enough. I love your posts of the more metaphysical side of human interaction as I have much experience in it and can see the truths that you speak :) I am glad I found your blog!
Posted by zoevega | 16/01/2013, 10:03 pmHello. I am a vampire that wants to change and your post has helped me tremendously. Thank you.
Posted by hakesplace | 17/01/2013, 11:59 pmOh i really appreciate your input on the subject!
It takes a good deal of bravery and strength to step up and admit there is something in you you wish to work on!
I admire such people! I believe that we should never stop our self-development.
Best of luck to you!
Posted by Sofia Siberia | 19/01/2013, 9:53 amChange is easier when we are tolerated and accepted–that is those who are trying to change. It takes lots of practice for change to occur. We learn easier through observing correct behaviors; we are motivated when those who understand our predicament illustrate correct behavior and feedback. Without practice and support, it is virtually impossible to change as we are stuck in a cycle that is non-conducive to our self-development. Thank you again, Sofia.
Posted by hakesplace | 19/01/2013, 3:58 pmI really admire your effort and understanding of the problem!
I’m actually curious, how did you find out/understood that you might have energy vampiric traits?
Did someone tell you this, or you figured out on your own that this might be the case?
Because, honestly, usually it is very difficult for a person to find out, let alone admit that he/she might be vampiric to others!..
Therefore i really appreciate your input on this subject!
Posted by Sofia Siberia | 19/01/2013, 7:48 pmI figured it out on my own a long time ago. I started noticing people stayed away from me and I couldn’t understand why. I’m writing a book about it.
Posted by hakesplace | 19/01/2013, 10:34 pmYou must be a profoundly insightful person if you managed to figure this out on your own!
And please do let me know when your book comes out! I’ll be really interested to read it!
Posted by Sofia Siberia | 19/01/2013, 10:37 pm:)
Posted by hakesplace | 19/01/2013, 11:43 pmDear my fried you have mail
Posted by Maxima | 31/01/2013, 10:18 pmWill check it out in a short while! :)
Posted by Sofia Siberia | 01/02/2013, 12:59 am:)
Posted by Maxima | 01/02/2013, 6:55 am