When your boss says she needs you around in the office longer than you actually should be there, and your mother-in-law says you should come by to visit more often because she misses you, you know they are telling the truth – these people do really need you.
Now, how many of those people who ‘need’ your company, and you can perfectly do without, actually leave you happy and invigorated after the interaction?
Or maybe rather weirdly fatigued and headached?..
Energy vampires of all kinds are all out of a closet now. We finally acknowledged they exist and they do seriously get on our emotional harmony.
These are no monsters, in fact, they are simply lower-energy younger souls that lack certain awareness and traits that more balanced personalities got. And so they instinctively choose and cling to those people as donors of the energies they themselves are deficient in.
These sad people are unaware of the fact that they are actually feeding on the vibrations of others, and they have no clue of how greatly they may be intoxicating somebody’s existence.
They just instinctively ‘know’ that there is something delicious for them you’ve got and this something will make them feel better. And so they do truly believe that they love you, miss you and need you.
No matter how well you try to build your relationships with people around and how much positivity you outward, you will rarely avoid energy trolls around yourself. And the more positive you actually are, the more ‘needy ones’ will be cling to you.
Psyche tyrants range from insufficient ones that just occasionally get on our nerves and can be easily got rid of, to major life-drainers that have to be in our faces every day, and we can’t really avoid them because we are tied up with them in some close relativity or social cooperation.
Energy vampires differ greatly in their types as well as in their involvement with us. And in fact, there is no ultimate way of shielding from them all.
So, unless you choose to permanently seclude yourself from the society, you should otherwise learn to make a harmonious living among all kinds of people, including those who disturb your serenity.
But in fact, you will keep suffering from energy vampires only until you realize that you can actually benefit from them and use them efficiently on your way of personal growth and energetic intelligence.
And remember, energy vampire is not the main deal, it is just a tool that is presented to you so that you could learn many important things through your interactions.
Remember, the more hopes the Nature puts on you, the more challenges and tyrants it is likely to cast on your way.
And the more you resent and avoid annoying people and situations, the more often you will be brought back with them.
All the tyrants are given to us in order to challenge our
- feeling of self-importance (Castaneda term), which is our inborn and life-long cultivated Ego that gives us the illusion of being better or more meaningful than others).
And teach us
- mastery of acceptance and
- emotional intelligence.
With just a little effort you can master your ways of dealing with tyrants, upgrade on a level of self-development, and even have some fun along the way.
A vampire in your life is the best training aid for practicing on attainment of your energetic wholeness.
Vampiric people feel extremely annoying, but as long as they keep irritating you and you keep resenting them, they will keep sticking around, because, unconsciously, they want your
- and compassion
Well, any strong emotional response from you would do for them.
Because with any neurotic reaction you are sending them a chunk of your energy – this is what they are waiting from you.
Stay resentful and hate the fact of their existence, and be sure they won’t leave you alone. And the more energy they need from you, the more they will increase getting on your nerves.
Their energy hunger senses that you shrink away from them on the inside and that makes you even tastier and more desired. They want exactly the energy that you won’t give eagerly. These people feed on heavy vibrations of irritation, arguments and fights.
So don’t resent your tyrants – have fun with them instead!
Your tyrants work within a scenario.
Once you recognize it – because, in fact, it’s always the same – you will be able to play that scenario with artistry – play it your way.
And just as you trick vampires into your play, letting them think it’s still theirs – here is where the fun begins.
Vampires always use their irritants as the tools for fishing your energy out. If you bite on those irritants, you are caught.
Recognize their tools.
They always seek your company, but they will always (unconsciously)
- use the perfume or accessories you hate
(even the general look of your vampire may look irritating to you)
- give you advises that you don’t need
- ask you questions that is none of their business
- give the same comments that drive you nuts time and again
- complain, complain, complain (always)
- criticize (you and others, with details you don’t really want to know)
- pull a drama
- give you bad news
(and tell you about every horrific event on the planet and in the local neighborhood)
- talk slowly or eat loudly
- bite their nails
- smoke in your face
- move with you in a smothering physical proximity
- touch your stuff
(to mess it or organize it their way)
- and do other innumerous things that you in particular hate.
They want two things – your company and your emotional response.
Even resenting them on a distance sends them the energy of your reactions every time you think how much you hate them.
As a sensitive person myself I used to try and avoid interacting with the vampires for as much as it was possible, and they’d only continue tormenting me on a distance with a wilder determination.
Now I go visit my vampires often and am really happy to fob myself off on them!!
Talk about the scenario.
Before I would feel sad and sick in their company, forcing out a smile just to be polite.
Now I come visit them eagerly and smile and laugh loudly, and talk heartily with my vampires, grabbing their hands, hugging them and messing their hairdos.
But guess what. Hardly had I gone happy to share my vampires’ company, offer them a hug and a compassionate ear, as they lost interest in me and withdrew from my company. Hmm…
Years of dealing with energy vampires made me realize that unconditional love, acceptance and open friendliness smother them and bewilder their vampiric zest.
When you start stalking them with your attention and become psycho happy to share their company, such willingness of yours may scare them away, because it breaks their behavioral scenario expected of you.
When you shower them with love, compassion and tight hugs, paradoxically, they might even develop headaches from you or get bored, because this is not the type of energy they need from you – they want your resentment and evasion, that’s what boosts their adrenalin.
They don’t need your laughter and happy wisdoms that diminish their never ending end-of-the-world problems. They want to bring you down and get your involvement with their dramas that really have no end or need any solutions.
So come and jump on your vampires’ heads with a happy look, loud laughter, shower them with Love, and give them every irrelevant ‘practical’ adviсes on everything, because when vampires complain, they don’t really need a solution to their problems, they just want to gripe you.
It is especially effective to be happy, smiling and playful in response to your vampire’s chronic sour face and constant nagging and sticking.
But be careful, again, because the mighty flood of positive energy may cause your vampire feeling bad. Because they are not able to digest a huge flood of fun energy that you throw out on them at once, they are rather used to drag those energies out in dosage with their own pinchers.
But please, remember, you should never plan to revenge on your vampires or intentionally make them feel bad. The purpose of these techniques is a pure self-defense and just a mean of letting them know not to infringe on your energy balance.
Another good way of warding some of them off is to become a ‘Shrek’s donkey’ that just talks talks talks without any deep meaning and without stop.
I tried it hundreds of times on those vampires who love to stick suffocatively close – it’s those people who just can’t keep their hand off your shoulder during interaction.
And so I’d start showering them with tones of silly information, making sure I sound loud and make an intense eye contact. It’s also a good idea to give your vampire an eager lecture on something that he or she has no idea about.
In a few minutes of such unexpected bombarding I’d always notice how my poor vampire’s look deem and lose an eye contact. Then they quickly deflate and switch to somebody else.
They don’t want your positivity, they need to get you and your nervous.
A vampire tries to make you uncomfortable, but if you ignore the irritants and start making your vampire uncomfortable instead (simply with the behavior she or he does not expect), you will notice how your daily chimaeras will start shrinking away.
Until one day you think of a person who used to drain your existence and find yourself having no negative emotions for her or him whatsoever left.